Bryan Wong's Journey

Monday, February 26, 2007

Tribute



From his best friends:

Bryan "Bintong / BW" Wong attended St Margaret Bougeoise and St Justin Martyr for elementary school, in addition to the French immersion program at St. Matthew's. It was during this time where he would meet the friends with which he would spend the majority of his later years with. He went with them to Las Vegas, on several road trips, played basketball and road hockey and any other team sports available, and really hung out with them a lot. He always had time for his friends, and always made sure that everyone was included. When he was young, Bryan's parents used to drive all his friends to and from movies, the mall, and Laser Quest. Bryan was close to his family and relatives; he spent time living with both of his grandmothers while attending college and university, and his summers with them usually involved fun vacations and camping trips together.

After elementary school, Bryan attended Brother Andre Catholic High school, went on to Seneca College to get some hands-on skills through co-op placements, and then Ryerson University to complete a Bachelor of Commerce, specializing in Information Technology. He made good friends everywhere; we were all jealous to learn one of his classmates and friends was a recent Ms. Universe winner. Upon graduation, Bryan started his first full-time job at a large law firm, Osler, Hoskin & Harcourt. He was enjoying and excelling in his IT Support role before he was diagnosed with cancer. He had also started making short business trips, which included traveling to New York City and Calgary. This year he was looking forward to moving into his new condo downtown near the Eaton Centre.

Easy going, intelligent, funny, a great fighter, and an awesome person. He was a big fan of Wrestling, Star Trek, all types of movies, downloading just about anything, and following NBA basketball. One thing that everyone knows about Bryan is that he always did what he wanted to do and was very candid in his conversations. He was always himself and we loved everything about him. He worked hard, and he played hard; he was always good company. Bryan also enjoyed riding his bike around the city, he was very good at it given how dangerous it can be. He liked playing basketball and volleyball in the summer, and really enjoyed the hot weather and the beaches. Bryan was a friend you'd always want on your team. For example, as many people can confirm, in video game challenges, he'd always be quicker at pressing the right combination of buttons. 'I'll be there in 10 minutes' usually meant a couple hours though, so as long as you could wait, it would all be good. He'd often have video game, movie, and pizza nights when school and work weren't too busy. Bryan was easy to eat with because he would eat anything and at any time of the day. He would always make sure that food wasn't wasted. Bryan loved life.
A great son, brother, grandson, nephew, cousin, friend, and colleague, we are all lucky to have been close with him. Basketball, one of his favourite sports to watch and play, was an area where he dominated when he had the ball. We could always recite jealously his quotes such as "There are 5 people on the court and I ain't passing to anyone", knowing that he could and would get the job done. Another favourite quote of his was "Don't shoot, you're gonna get rejected", which he more than enough times shouted and carried out, to the disappointment of his basketball opponents.
His journey continues beside us, with us and in us.

Sunday, February 25, 2007

The Day After

Today seemed surreal. The flurry of activity over and no one to go see or worry about.

A lot of time was spent catching up on sleep but even when I went to buy some groceries, I felt like I should be doing something else.

Echoing back to the Journey's terminus. It's like I'm wandering around the terminal thinking that maybe the train will return or like in the movies, time will reverse. I have yet to board my train to a new destination yet I know I must.

What will happen to this blog? I'll leave it up as a record of Bryan's valiant fight. I'll post some memories periodically. Especially on special days. Thanks so much to those who expressed appreciation of this blog. While it was a service to others it was also cathartic for myself.

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Friday, February 23, 2007

Vigil

During tonight's (Friday) visitation around 7:30 pm. There will be Vigil and people will have a chance to share memories of Bryan. A number of people have prepared texts which we will try to have posted here, as well.

Tomorrow's service is a traditional Catholic service which will not include any eulogy.

Friends at Osler said... (re-posted from comments)

We first met Bryan when he joined the Records department at Osler in June 2004. Within a short time, Bryan’s outgoing personality and sense of humour had transformed our initial impression of him as a quiet, reserved individual. It didn’t take us long to form strong friendships and a bond with Bryan. By the late-summer, Bryan had become an integral part of the team, organizing KFC lunches for all and challenging the Manager to a box construction contest! The year that Bryan joined Records was very challenging for various reasons. But Bryan’s compassionate, generous and fun-loving character made everyone look forward to each day in the office.

A year after Bryan started at Osler, he transferred to the IS Service Desk. Within a couple of weeks, Bryan’s laid-back, cool demeanour made it seem like he’d always been a part of the team. With a wide variety of personalities on the desk, Bryan’s humour and ability to adapt to the position, quickly moved him from new colleague to friend.

Bryan’s empathetic and open nature initiated strong ties with people throughout the Firm. His relationships were subtle and humble, yet significant and will never be forgotten.

We love you Bryan, and we'll miss you.

2/27/07 6:19 AM

Wednesday, February 21, 2007

"Bryan was a Beast"

As quoted by his father, Bryan fought hard, fought strong, and never gave up. He passed away peacefully just before noon on Monday, February 19th 2007.

With no more pain to worry about, Bryan is able to watch unlimited TV, play b-ball and v-ball endlessly, read all of the latest comics, watch all of the best dvds, and eat to his heart's content. He is undeniably at peace, and happy, and this he has achieved, without a doubt, with your help.

He is, and will always be, with us in our thoughts and prayers.

Announcement will be in Thursday's Toronto Star:

BRYAN BINTONG WONG Passed away peacefully at Markham Stouffville Hospital with his mother by his side on Monday, February 19, 2007 at the age of 26. Beloved son of Richard and Ena Ann-Marie Wong. Grandson of Anna Yee-Ching and Oi-Yip Wong. Loving brother of Michelle, Jason and Nicole. Nephew of Christopher, Foster, Phillip, Irene Angela, Carmen, Ann, Doris, Helen, Mary, Betty, Ida and Agnes. Bryan will be missed by his many cousins, extended family, friends and co-workers at Osler, Hoskin & Harcourt. He was fun-loving, a free spirit and a loyal friend with a great sense of humour. Special thanks to pallbearers: Alex, Andrew, Jason R., Rob, and his cousin Jeffrey. The family expresses their sincere thanks to the nurses and staff at M.S.H. Resting at Chapel Ridge Funeral Home, 8911 Woodbine Ave., Markham, (4 lights north of Hwy. 7) 905-305-8508 on Friday, February 23, from 5 - 9 p.m. A Funeral Mass will take place at St. Justin Martyr Catholic Church, 3898 Hwy. 7, Markham, on Saturday February 24, at 10:30 a.m. Entombment at Holy Cross Cemetery, 8361 Yonge St., Thornhill, south of Hwy. 407. Donations in Bryan's memory can be made to the Canadian Cancer Society or the Markham Stouffville Hospital Foundation.
(Click View PDF to see the notice with the photo.)
http://www.torontostarclassifieds.com/OLCSApp/do/attribute_search_side?categoryName=DEATHS&classId=008&attri_1=wong,%20bryan&detail=true&sort=none&pages=10">The Star

The Snow Fell

I've written before comparing the brevity of life to a falling snow flake. As a stood in Bryan's hospital room on Monday, I saw the new snow swirling outside the window around the tree in the courtyard, Bryan's last view of the world outside for the last few weeks. Sometimes I would see him looking longingly outside. He would pump his arm and lift his leg with renewed vigor.

Some have said the Bryan's Journey is at an end. Consider that we have reached a terminus. We must now depart with one less passenger. Bryan must travel a new path where we cannot follow yet. But the memories of time spent together will travel with all of us wherever we go.

Saturday, February 17, 2007

Toy Paradise


Aside from the pictures, posters, drinks, food, chocolates and more brought in by Bryan's relatives and friends (in addition to his own collection!), there are some items that Bryan has never grown up from, and that is the classic and current toys from memorable cartoons that the nurses are jealous of! They always catch his eye!

Photo picture displays seem to be corrupt at the moment, so here's some direct links to some of the toy pictures from his room:

Batman (duplicate)

Family Guy

Spongebob

Transformers


The latter gets the most attention as they are the original 1986 models...just like the Superman model in the Seinfeld episodes...!

The Pansy


OK this is not much to look at but it started growing unexpectedly in my vegetable garden last November. Probably a gift from birds visiting my bird-feeder.

I thought the December frost had killed it but after the week of rain we had in January it was blooming again. Because of it's tenacity thought I'd provide it safe habour and put it in a pot on our front porch. Now it is inside protected from the extreme cold. It's growing thin and spindly since pansies don't like really warm temperatures.

I looking forward to putting it back outside in the spring to continue to grow and bloom.

Wednesday, February 14, 2007

The Truth

If you can't handle truth read no further...

Those who read this blog and visit Bryan regularly know that I usually delay posting any bad news hoping that whatever has happened will go away. I usually post good news as soon as I can.

The reality of Bryan's condition is that it is slowly deteriorating. He has some good days and bad days but overall things are sliding lower. It's the same Bryan inside but he can barely speak these days. Swallowing is a huge chore and sometimes the pain is overwhelming in spite of the pain medicine pump.

I hope and pray for a miracle. Something that will kick start Bryan's immune system to shrink the tumours. The problem is that Bryan's body so far has been ineffective in fighting the cancer. We all have cancers cells floating around inside of us. The thing is most of the time the body will prevent them from taking hold anywhere. Perhaps, the Tarceva will do something. Perhaps, the forced change in diet will stop feeding the cancer. Perhaps, a different inner strength will be found that will dispatch the errant cells. This I wish.

Monday, February 12, 2007

Tarceva

Bryan started taking Tarceva on Sunday. It's a new drug that acts as a growth inhibitor instead of a cell killer like traditional chemotherapies so it not as hard on the body.


However, one of the side effects is diarrhea which Bryan has now. Hopefully it gets under control in the next while.

Friday, February 09, 2007

A Letter of Thanks

Dear well-wishers,

On behalf of Bryan and the Wong family, I would like to offer my thanks and appreciation for your help during this stressful time. The kindness and consideration we have received has been overwhelming, and we hope that we can one day return this support.

Thank you to all who attended the benefit dinner and dance on January 27th; an amazing $10 000 was raised to aid in Bryan’s medical expenses. I hope you enjoyed the event as much as I did. The remarkable amount of cheer and well-wishes brought much hope and optimism to Bryan’s situation. Thanks to Bryan’s friends and relatives who created videotaped greetings and messages; they truly were appreciated as they brought a big smile to his face. Also, thank you to those who could not come to the dinner but still gave much appreciated donations and support; human kindness never fails to amaze.

Bryan would love to have been there in person, but he was with you all in spirit and would enjoy hearing stories about the night. Once again, thank you to everyone who was a part of the event.

Sincerely,


Nicole Wong

Bits & Bites


Besides the mandatory shaving of his goatee by the nurse, Bryan has been settling well into his room without too much change. Being able to take in small amounts of food again has also been a good sign, and Bryan is keeping up to date on the recent successes of the Raptors. He also enjoyed this year's Superbowl commercials, and in his free time, works on his ball-handling skillz.

Thursday, February 08, 2007

Eating

I'm back-dating this to the morning I spent with Bryan (Thursday).

I am worried about Bryan getting the essential body building proteins for re-generating cells. There are 20 amino acids of which 10 must be gotten daily from food. I had always heard that eggs are considered a perfect protein because they contain all of these amino acids.

I made some really soft scrambled eggs with lots of milk in them to take with me in the morning. Bryan had a few small spoons of the egg. However, it seemed to pass through him very quickly.

I plugged my laptop into the phone line and dialed Sympatico so I could show him this blog live. I realised this blog is a lot of text. Andrew posts most of the pictures. I forgot to show him the "Bryan Tree" and how it's been growing.

Tuesday, February 06, 2007

Greetings 2

I thought I'd start a new greetings thread since I got a few through email.

Sunday, February 04, 2007

Slow Progress

Bryan seemed in pretty good spirits today. He ate some bread and a bit of cookie today, his first solid food in a week. He was moving his arm and leg a lot although the right side still seems paralyzed. He was also talking a lot and smiling.

Thursday, February 01, 2007

Pain Medication

The nurses come to turn Bryan regularly, as he is unable to move much except his left side. He finds these moves very painful. They'll give him a boost from the pain medication pump before doing these moves. The pain medication dose has been increasing each day. This is normal as the effect of the medication reduces the amount of relief as the body becomes accustomed to it.

Robot Chicken Supervillian Carpool, 66" Vertical Jump and 2006 NBA Dunk Contest


YouTube is great for short clips on amazing events around the world, and Bryan got a couple whoas and chuckles out while watching some randomly captured clips. His temperature throughout the day was normal, and he was in good spirits. There has been some swelling in his legs and right arm, but Bryan was able to catch up on sport news by reading on the latest adventures / statistics in the NBA / NHL (Bosh had a great night yesterday!). His room has also been very homely decorated with pictures and mementos from the Benefit, as well as random odds and ends (ie Stewie and the Spongebob Squarepants plush dolls!). Some additional Benefit pictures to decorate this post!